Almost three quarters (70%) of people living in Yorkshire and the Humber say they are
expecting something to place pressure on their relationships this Christmas,
according to a poll from leading relationships charity Relate. This compares to
almost three quarters across the UK as a whole (73%) with Londoners being the most
likely to be anticipating relationship pressures (83%) and those in the South East the
least likely (68%).
Uncertainty around COVID-19 and restrictions is the number one expected pressure in
Yorkshire and the Humber (24%) whereas across the UK it is money worries (24%). In
Yorkshire and the Humber the second biggest concern is money worries (21%)
followed by respondent’s own mental health. Other likely pressures include feeling
lonely (16%), not being able to see loved ones (13%) and deciding who to spend
Christmas with (12%).
Knowing all too well the added stress our relationships and wellbeing can come under
at Christmas time, Relate Cross Pennine is encouraging people to seek support such as relationship, individual or family counselling at the earliest opportunity. Relate has also launched its Christmas Sanctuary– an online haven for when things start to get overwhelming. The Christmas Sanctuary includes festive self-help articles from Relate counsellors, a quiz from Paired (the number one app for couples) about how in sync you and your partner are this Christmas and an exclusive guided meditation from yoga teacher, public speaker and vibe giver Sanchia Legister.
CEO Ken Sanderson, who leads the Yorkshire and Lancashire-based charity which specialises
in supporting couples, individuals, families, children and young people said:
“Christmas can be one big pressure-cooker and we see a big influx in people signing
up to services like relationship counselling and family counselling every New Year
after tensions have come to a head. Finances are notoriously stretched at Christmas
and when people have different attitudes towards spending this can add to conflict
and feelings of resentment. Covid-19 and restrictions are the top concern for people in Yorkshire this year and likely even more so following the recent announcement surrounding Plan B. A lot of people in the region also had concerns about their own mental health. If things are getting a bit overwhelming it’s important to take a breath. Do check out the National Relates' Christmas Sanctuary and consider seeking relationship support such as our relationship, individual or family counselling if things are tough right now.”
More positively, Relate’s research found that despite the predicted relationship pressures, 62% of people in Yorkshire and the Humber are looking forward to Christmas this year. Relate has compiled some tips to help families cut themselves some slack and make the most of Christmas.
Relate’s tips for navigating Christmas 2021
Calculate your budget and plan a Christmas you can afford rather than going all out and then worrying about how much you’ve spent.
If circumstances mean you can’t meet with certain loved ones, talk openly with them about it. Consider arranging a video call on Christmas Day or maybe it’s possible to meet them on another day during the festive period.
Be sensitive to what people have been through during the pandemic and look out for family members who may be struggling with their mental health. Give them the option to get involved and let them know you’re there for them but equally don’t put pressure on them to be the life and soul of the party.
Know that the perfect Christmas doesn’t exist so don’t put pressure on yourself to create one.
Plan some time outdoors so kids can let off steam and everyone can get some fresh air.
Try setting an intention for Christmas day. For example it might be to ask for help when you need it and accept help when people offer it.
If you think fall outs are likely, steer clear of discussions about politics and religion.
Take a breath: we all need a bit of space at times so why not check out Relate’s Christmas Sanctuary – an online haven which includes a guided meditation, self-help articles and a quiz which you can access if you’re feeling overwhelmed.
If you need to talk to someone impartial about your relationship and wellbeing concerns over Christmas consider Relate’s WebChat service which offers a 30 minute online chat with a trained counsellor.