Margaret
Margaret talks about sex and intimacy in throughout her life and later years:
My sex life with my husband was intense through the whole of our marriage. As we got older it got better. We were more intimate, because we were just the two of us on our own. And I think if you're on your own, it's better.
Because you got that feeling during the course of the day, you might say to yourself come on and off we go. Which you probably wouldn't do when you've got younger children and you’re always frighten someone's gonna come in the bedroom any minute. When we were older we were on our own and that was marvellous wasn't just at bedtime.
I sleep still in the same bed, in a double bed but I have a bolster down the side of me so that when I go to sleep I feel he is there. I don't need anything because I've got good memories and I feel he is there anyway. If you were in the kitchen and you were doing something he’d come and he’d always touch you. He’d never go past you without him touched you. As he’d walk past you, he’d kiss you on the head if you're sitting down doing something. He was he was that sort of man yeah.
I got marvellous memories and that is the thing that worries me that a lot of old people they retire and they do nothing they don't have memories because eventually one of you’s gonna go. And if you haven't got memories, you're very lonely person, very lonely.
Margaret is taking part in the national Relate Let’s Talk The Joy of Later Life Sex campaign. Relate have teamed up with renowned British photographer, Rankin, for the campaign to shine the spotlight on the unseen - sex and intimacy in our later years.
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